In Memoriam: Robert Culp

The actor Robert Culp, who unexpectedly died a couple weeks ago at the age of 79, has long struck me as an example of an increasingly rare type of American male. Like Peter Graves, who also recently passed away, Culp always seemed to project an air of confident masculinity. Or masculine confidence, if you'd prefer. Either way, he was a good old-fashioned "man's man." Not macho, with all the arrogance, cruelty, and phoniness often implied by that term, and not misogynistic, either, but simply a man who had no hang-ups about being a man. It was a trait of his generation, I think, something as instinctive for them as breathing. And they were the last generation for whom carrying the Y chromosome would come so easily.
Now, I've got nothing against feminism per se -- I think the women's movement of the '60s and '70s was both necessary and generally resulted in positive change -- but it did make being a man considerably more complicated for those males who grew up in the aftermath, especially those of us who looked to pop culture for guidance. What the hell were we supposed to be like, anyway? The sensitive Alan Alda/Phil Donohue intellectual types that were lauded in the '70s as "the new man," or the reactionary, bodybuilding action heroes who took over the big screen in the '80s? How can we be kind and noble without being self-loathing and tortured, strong without being hypermasculinized caricatures? I'm 40 years old and I'm still trying to find the proper balance between those extremes, to figure out just what being a man is all about.
But guys like Robert Culp, Peter Graves, Steve McQueen, James Garner, and Clint Eastwood -- God, yes, Clint! -- they just seemed to come into the world already knowing. No, that's not quite right... they wouldn't have even wondered how to be a man. They simply were. And that I think is the secret of their enduring appeal, the reason why we still think they're cool even now, years after the prime of their careers and even, in many cases, their deaths. I admire men like this, and I envy them. And I'm really starting to miss them now that there are so few of them left.



